I Hate you, Don't Ever Leave Me.

Hey guys! I know it's been a very long time since I have updated you on the whoas of the mentally disturbed. So I'm back, and this time with a vengeance. So, I am going to enlighten you all in one of the most complicated, and confusing personality disorders that is known to psychologists. I spent almost 6 months studying this disorder and I know a great deal about.  *DISCLAIMER* I am by no means a professional, nor do I have a degree in psychology. I wrote a 10 page paper about it but I'll spare you from that and just give you the condensed version. This is the beginning of a series of blogs about personality disorders.

I Hate you, Don't Ever Leave Me.

It sounds confusing and a little strange and, well, contradictory but as you continue reading you'll understand why.

Living with Borderline Personality disorder is a constant struggle. It is frightening for the person diagnosed and it can also be very confusing. Mostly because they can't acknowledge their own behavior as being the cause of the problem.

So you all can better understand this disorder here is some brief history:

Initially, Borderline was misdiagnosed until 1938, and was originally thought to be schizophrenia. It was discovered by american psychoanalyst Adolf Stern, who was the first to describe almost all of the symptoms that are now considered the diagnostic criteria for BPD. He is also famous for naming the disorder by referring to the patients as "the borderline group".

Symptoms: *Another disclaimer* After I reveal these symptoms to you, please refrain from diagnosing yourself or your family members- as crazy as they may be. Thank you that is all.

-To begin, BPD is the most common diagnosed personality disorder and it is believed that 1-2% of the general population experience it.
- It is more prevalent in females with 75% of most cases
- They have to be over 18 to be diagnosed. Why you ask? That is because the teens personality is 1. still developing, and 2. if they are suffering from the same symptoms they may have a disorder only diagnosed in young kids and teens. But that's another blog.
- The show a sense of identity confusion, like constant unstable self-image (one day they might think they're a sexy beast, the next day they think they are super ugly).
- They might show rapid shifts in goals, aspirations, friends, or even sexual orientation (this goes with identity confusion)
- The are impulsive in at least two areas that have the potential to be self-damaging, such as spending tons of money, a lot of sex, substance abuse, or even reckless driving.
- People who are afflicted by BPD have recurrent suicidal behavior and/or self multination. For example, cutting their wrists, burning themselves, or banging their heads. It's seen as a way to help reduce their chronic feelings of emptiness, boredom, and id confusion.
- There is a 70% chance they will attempt suicide and 6-19% likely-hood of success. It's kinda sad.
- Being emotionally unstable is a major symptom of everyone who is diagnosed. Like intense episodes or depression, irritability, or anxiety which usually lasts only a few hours. Now like I said before please refrain from diagnosing your girlfriend just because she's PMSing. All of these mood swings make BPD hard to separate from depression and bipolar.

I said earlier that you would realize why the title is "I Hate you, Don't Ever Leave Me". The reason why I chose this title is because they show a pattern of unstable and INTENSE interpersonal relationships. They might say "I love you" one day and then "I hate you" the next. The may idealize the lover or caregiver, like after the first date they think they are madly in-love with the person they went out with. Then that will turn into demanding a lot of attention from their date, spending a lot of time with that them, and share the most intimate details about their life really early in the relationship. It's like I make a new friend then all of a sudden after hanging out with them one time I tell them that was abused as a child. The kind of things you only want your closest friends to know. But people with BPD often can't tell the difference. However, they may quickly turn from idealizing their significant other to devaluing them, and feeling like that person doesn't care enough, or is not there enough. Even if that significant other is working 7 days a week and 9 hours a day to make enough money to please that person. They won't care. People with BPD aren't always cruel and judgmental, they are capable of empathizing and nurturing other people. However, those feelings are usually only if the other person will be there to meet their own needs. They will also make frantic efforts to avoid real, or even imagined abandonment, even the idea of separation or rejection can lead to profound changes in the individual such as self-image, cognition and behavior.

And finally we have come to the end of our segment. Treatments. Like all other personality disorders, psychotherapy is often the treatment of choice when it comes to helping people overcome this problem. Medications can usually help some of the symptoms, but they can't help the patient learn new coping skills, emotion regulation, or any other important changes in the person's life.

Thank you all for reading this blog! I appreciate it greatly. My information came from a number of sources so if you would like to know them, by all means shoot me a message and I will share them with you.